While doing some research for a new project, I came across the term “benign neglect.” As a parenting style, it involves allowing your kids freedom to well, be kids. Let them explore their world. Solve their own problems. Take their lumps when things don’t go so well.
And I like the nomenclature because it’s mildly antagonistic.
It perfectly explains the parenting strategy Shelly and I use. We let them play unsupervised, which often involves wandering around Read More...
The older I get, the more I believe this statement rings true. Take any measurable variable. The more you need that particular thing, the less likely you are to get it. Stop needing something and it suddenly appears. The concept seems to work with just about anything- money, love, sex, potato salad… you name it.
Is it a real concept?
Who knows… it may just be an illusory correlation.
Still, this concept popped it in Read More...
I finished up the expanded and edited version of “Never Wipe Your Ass with a Squirrel: A trail running, ultramarathon, and wilderness survival guide for weird folks.“I’ve accomplished my goal of producing the least-serious-but-still-exceedingly-useful trail and ultra book in existence!
I added significantly more content than the original version, and my editing team did a wonderful job of eliminating the grammar and other errors. New table of contents can be found at the bottom of this post.
A few days ago, Dave, a frequent commenter, left a thought-provoking comment where he discussed a dichotomy of sorts between “sticking to your guns” versus “chasing an existential high” (paraphrased.) He was talking about my tendency to jump from one area of interest to another. This comment reminded me why I love blogging- the interactions with others leads to introspection, which ultimately leads to growth.
Dave’s comment specifically made me question how I felt about that Read More...
The last two months or so have been an interesting experience. Due to a lot of miscalculations, we’ve been rather poor lately. It’s a strange twist to our hobo adventures in that we’ve been able to look at our situation with a degree of objectivity without falling into a serious panic. It’s taught us a great deal about ourselves and others that may be in a similar situation.
So how did we slip into poverty?
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I’ve spent the last few months trying to figure out why I seemingly lost motivation to run. Over time, I came to a few conclusions ranging from burnout to “distraction with life circumstances.” Lately I’ve come to a different conclusion-
Running has always been a hobby. I’m an undeniable serial hobbyist. Interest in hobbies increases rapidly, plateaus, then wanes.
It’s less about the actual activity and more about the process of learning. Here’s a graph that Read More...
This story perfectly illustrates the point:
“A boat docked in a tiny Mexican village. An American tourist complimented the Mexican fisherman on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took him to catch them.
“Not very long,” answered the Mexican.
“But then, why didn’t you stay out longer and catch more?” asked the American.
The Mexican explained that his small catch was sufficient to meet his needs and those of his family. The American asked, “But what do you do with Read More...
This post was inspired by a Bruce Lee quote from the Tao of Jeet Kune Do.
For the last three months, Shelly and I have been camping out in Southern California. The experience has given me time to reflect on our travels. Specifically, I’ve had a chance to assess what I learned over the previous two years. The lessons could easily fill a book (upcoming project, perhaps?), but one in particular stands out:
Any particular Read More...